The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts
How to Keep Cool, Stay Safe, and Get Along
Naomi Drew, M.A.
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Conflict Resolution & Bullying
From taunts and teasing to physical assault, many kids face difficult, even dangerous situations at school, at home, and in the community. How can they avoid conflict and defuse tough situations?
Written by a well-known expert on conflict resolution and peacemaking, incorporating the results of a nationwide survey of kids ages 10–15, this book offers practical, realistic answers.
Author Naomi Drew describes common forms of conflict, the reasons behind conflicts, and positive ways to deal with difficult circumstances.
Through self-tests and exercises, young people discover whether they are conflict-solvers or conflict-makers. They learn how to stand up for themselves without getting physical, and how to deal with people who don’t want to resolve conflicts in a peaceful way.
Includes tips for countering bullying, calming down, lessening stress and tension, letting go of anger and resentment, and eliminating put-downs and other hurtful language.
The Kids' Guide to Working Out Conflicts was designed to help schools fulfill Title IV—21st Century Schools, Part A—Safe and Drug-Free Schools and Communities, Sections 4115 (E) viii and xiii, which authorize conflict resolution, violence prevention, and education programs.
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See Icon Key 160 pages, illustrated, softcover, two-color, 7" x 9", ISBN 978-1-57542-150-6
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- National Parenting Publication Award (NAPPA) Children’s Resources Winner
- iParenting Media Awards, Winner
- Honor Award, Skipping Stones Multicultural Magazine, Winner
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“Naomi Drew has written a wonderful book for kids on how to deal effectively with anger, conflict, stress, and bullying in order to lead a more satisfying, peaceful, resilient life. Her ideas are presented in an easy-to-read style and her suggestions are very practical and achievable. Not only will kids find this book an invaluable resource, but so too will their parents and other caregivers.”—Dr. Robert Brooks, faculty Harvard Medical School, and author of The Self-Esteem Teacher and coauthor of Raising Resilient Children
“The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts is really helping me deal with conflict. Thanks so much for all the information.” —Asbel C., age 13, Georgia
"Will help youngsters to develop more mature coping skills. Useful for libraries and for peer-mediation programs."—School Library Journal
"An outstanding contribution. It is not a stretch to believe that if this book were translated into the world's many languages and disseminated all over the globe, today's youngsters would be tomorrow's peacemakers. It is highly recommended."—Voice of Youth Advocates
“Gives kids the skills they need to take much of the sting out of those tender years.”—Teaching K–8
“Kids will love this approachable book, and guidance counselors will find it the perfect tool to introduce conflict resolution activities.”
—Library Media Connection
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Using The Kids' Guide to Working Out Conflicts
Dear Mrs. Drew,
Thank you for emailing me back, I really appreciated that. Congratulations on writing your seventh book; I’m so happy for you. The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts has helped me in so many ways. It used to be when someone came up and started yelling at me, I just yelled right back and it never got better. But now that I’ve read your book, I take deep breaths, take a step back, and try to be patient with the other person, even if they’re not willing to be patient with me. Also, the meditation thing is really working out for me. I do it 30 minutes every morning and 30 minutes every night, so now, I’m not so tense anymore. I did the listening skills thing with my best friend and she said it worked out much better the second time when I was listening than when I was looking around the room the first time. I’ve also learned how to deal with the bullies at school. I’m still a little scared of them, but now I stick up for myself. I’ve talked to my mom and my teachers and they’re watching out for me more carefully now. My mom agrees with me and thinks that your books are perfect; straight and to the point. Next time I go to the library, I’m going to see if they have any more books by you. The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts was the only one I could find but I’m sure they have more. I’m glad that you take the time to write these books and I’m glad that my emails help you remember why you write. Email me back when you get the chance. Thanks.
Sincerely,
Asbel G.
Jeannie Purvis, a guidance counselor in Jacksonville, Florida, used The Kids' Guide to Working Out Conflicts with at-risk girls who'd been in frequent fights with friends and teachers. She reports their favorite lesson from the Leader's Guide was on "Willingness Blocks." She brought in shoeboxes and the girls wrote their blocks on them with makers. Jeannie says, "They were thrilled to have something concrete to show what they were struggling with. The girls also really related to the results of the book survey, which they felt accurately reflected and validated their conflict situations." Other ideas from Jeannie include making laminated, "Stop, Breathe, Chill" mini-posters that students tape in their notebooks and lockers and incorporating the book's listening skills lesson in academic classes. She's even used the "Win/Win Guidelines" to help a boy and his mother problem-solve together.
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A Leader’s Guide to The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts
Activities for Building Character and Social-Emotional Learning Grades 1–2
Activities for Building Character and Social-Emotional Learning Grades 3–5
Activities for Building Character and Social-Emotional Learning Grades 6–8
Activities for Building Character and Social-Emotional Learning PreK–K
Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain
No Kidding About Bullying