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How Rude!®

The Teen Guide to Good Manners, Proper Behavior, and Not Grossing People Out
(Revised & Updated Edition)


Discussing etiquette and manners from common courtesies to cell-phone smarts to classroom decorum, Alex J. Packer blends outrageous humor with sound advice as he explains why etiquette and manners are important—because people who know how to handle themselves in social situations come out on top, get what they want, feel good about themselves, and enjoy life to the fullest.

Full of practical tips for every occasion, How Rude! is a serious etiquette and manners encyclopedia—and a hilarious read. This revised and updated edition describes the basics of polite behavior in all kinds of situations at home, in school, online, and in the world.

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ISBN: 978-1-57542-454-5
Reading Level: High school–adult
Interest Level: Ages 13 & up
Guided Reading Level: Z+
Lexile Measure: 910L
Illustrated: illust.
Trim Size: 7.25" x 9"
Page Count: 504

Praise for How Rude!®
“It is difficult to make a topic like etiquette seem relevant and appealing to teenagers, but that is exactly what Packer accomplishes. Drawing heavily on surveys of teens, parents, and teachers to target which situations were most pertinent, the opening chapters successfully sell the importance of manners to both the individual and society . . . This is advice on issues that teens care about.”—Booklist

“A fun guide that teens may dip into when facing a confounding situation . . . Packer’s good nature and good sense make [How Rude!] a useful book for most collections.”—School Library Journal

Praise for the previous edition
“The most incredibly readable, enjoyable, laughable, enlightening, and insightful book.”—Voice of Youth Advocates

“Surprisingly simple ways for teens to respond to and interact with people to get the best results.”—YouthWorker Journal

  • Common Core State Standards


  • ASCA Mindsets & Behaviors for Student Success

    MS.1, MS.2, MS.3, MS.4, MS.5, MS.6
    BS.LS.1, BS.LS.2, BS.LS.3, BS.LS.4, BS.LS.5, BS.LS.6, BS.LS.7, BS.LS.8, BS.LS.9, BS.LS.10
    BS.SMS.1, BS.SMS.2, BS.SMS.4, BS.SMS.5, BS.SMS.6, BS.SMS.7, BS.SMS.8, BS.SMS.9, BS.SMS.10
    BS.SS.1, BS.SS.2, BS.SS.3, BS.SS.4, BS.SS.5, BS.SS.6, BS.SS.7, BS.SS.8, BS.SS.9

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June 14, 2021 / M S
We consult this book often

We frequently consult this book to guide our students in understanding manners, etiquette, the “why” of a cultural norm, or changing expectations. The humorous yet honest responses help students to accept the “norm” they may not have known. We hope that you keep revising/printing updated editions of this one!


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