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What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies?


Helping children cope with death is never easy. When Trevor Romain’s father died, Trevor didn’t know what to feel, say, or do. Shocked, saddened, and confused, all he could say was . . .wow. As he started understanding what had happened, he began writing about his experiences and feelings. His new book—simple, insightful, and straight from the heart—is for any child who has lost a loved one or other special person.

Trevor talks directly to kids about what death means and how to cope. He asks the kinds of questions kids have about death—Why? How? What next? Is it my fault? What’s a funeral?—in basic, straightforward terms. He describes and discusses the overwhelming emotions involved in grieving—sadness, fear, anger, guilt—and offers practical strategies for dealing with them. He also suggests meaningful ways to remember and honor the person who has died.

When someone dies, adults are often involved with their own loss and grief and not as available to children as they might otherwise be. This little book, full of concrete advice and expressive illustrations, offers the comfort and reassurance that children need during these difficult times. Written to and for kids, it’s also recommended for parents and other relatives, educators, counselors, and youth workers.

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ISBN: 978-1-57542-055-4
Reading Level: Grade 3
Interest Level: Ages 5–10
Guided Reading Level: P
Illustrated: illust.
Trim Size: 5.125" x 7"
Page Count: 72

Praise for What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies?
“Supportive, insightful, inspiring . . . very highly recommended for school and public library acquisition, counseling centers, and child welfare departments.”—The Children’s Bookwatch

“Written honestly, compassionately, and carefully.”—Bereavement Care

“Simple, insightful, and straight from the heart, this book is for any child who has lost a loved one or other special person.”—Library Talk

  • Parent Council® Selection

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