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Words Are Not for Hurting

Best Behavior® Series


The older children get, the more words they know and can use—including hurtful words. The paperback edition of Words Are Not for Hurting is written for a time of growing vocabularies and increasing awareness of how much kind words matter.

Children learn that their words belong to them: They can think before they speak, then choose what to say and how to say it. The book makes the connection between hurtful words and feelings of anger, sadness, and regret. It introduces positive ways for children to respond when others say mean or unkind words to them. And it reinforces the importance of saying “I’m sorry,” two little words that can be a big help. Charmingly illustrated, the book includes activities and discussion starters that parents, caregivers, and educators can use when working with children.

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ISBN: 978-1-57542-156-8
Reading Level: Grade 1
Interest Level: Ages 4–7
Guided Reading Level: H
Lexile Measure: 450L
Illustrated: color illust.
Trim Size: 9" x 9"
Page Count: 40

Praise for Words Are Not for Hurting
“Not only fun for you and your little ones to cuddle up with at bedtime (or any other time for that matter), but [these titles] also teach the importance of using words in respectful and loving ways, and in ways that resolve conflict instead of escalating it. Heinlen’s illustrations will capture a child’s imagination as she gazes at an assorted mixture of children from many races.”—

“A useful tool for the classroom.”—Children’s Literature

Awards for Words Are Not for Hurting:

  • Creative Child Magazine Seal of Excellence
  • iParenting Media Awards “Hottest Products” Winner
  • National Parenting Center’s Seal of Approval Winner
  • Oppenheim Toy Portfolio Gold Book Award Winner
  • Dr. Toy’s Smart Play/Smart Toy Products Winner
  • Read, America! Selection
Awards for the Best Behavior series:
  • Creative Child Seal of Excellence and Preferred Choice Award
  • Dr. Toy’s 10 Best Socially Responsible Products and Best Children’s Product
  • National Parenting Center Seal of Approval
  • Oppenheim Toy Portfolio Special Needs Award
  • Read America! Selection
  • iParenting Media Hot Award Winner
  • Common Core State Standards


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