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The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts

How to Keep Cool, Stay Safe, and Get Along


From taunts and teasing to physical assault, many kids face difficult, even dangerous situations at school, at home, and in the community. How can they avoid conflict and defuse tough situations?

Written by a well-known expert on conflict resolution and peacemaking, incorporating the results of a nationwide survey of kids ages ten to fifteen, this book offers practical, realistic answers. Author Naomi Drew describes common forms of conflict, the reasons behind conflicts, and positive ways to deal with difficult circumstances. Through self-tests and exercises, young people discover whether they are conflict-solvers or conflict-makers. They learn how to stand up for themselves without getting physical, and how to deal with people who don’t want to resolve conflicts in a peaceful way.

Includes tips for countering bullying, calming down, lessening stress and tension, letting go of anger and resentment, and eliminating put-downs and other hurtful language.

The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts was designed to help schools fulfill Title IV—21st Century Schools, Part A—Safe and Drug-Free Schools and Communities, Sections 4115 (E) viii and xiii, which authorize conflict resolution, violence prevention, and education programs.

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ISBN: 978-1-57542-150-6
Reading Level: Grade 6
Interest Level: Ages 10–15
Guided Reading Level: X
Illustrated: two-color, illust.
Trim Size: 7" x 9"
Page Count: 160

Praise for The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts
“Naomi Drew has written a wonderful book for kids on how to deal effectively with anger, conflict, stress, and bullying in order to lead a more satisfying, peaceful, resilient life. Her ideas are presented in an easy-to-read style and her suggestions are very practical and achievable. Not only will kids find this book an invaluable resource, but so too will their parents and other caregivers.”—Dr. Robert Brooks, faculty Harvard Medical School, and author of The Self-Esteem Teacher and coauthor of Raising Resilient Children

The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts is really helping me deal with conflict. Thanks so much for all the information.”—Asbel C., age 13, Georgia

“Will help youngsters develop more mature coping skills. Useful for libraries and for peer-mediation programs.”—School Library Journal

“An outstanding contribution. It is not a stretch to believe that if this book were translated into the world’s many languages and disseminated all over the globe, today’s youngsters would be tomorrow’s peacemakers. It is highly recommended.”—Voice of Youth Advocates

“Gives kids the skills they need to take much of the sting out of those tender years.”—Teaching K–8

“Kids will love this approachable book, and guidance counselors will find it the perfect tool to introduce conflict resolution activities.”—Library Media Connection

“Informative . . . An excellent text for a course dealing with any aspect of bullying, anger management, peacemaking, or conflict resolution.”—Children’s Literature
“Promotes clear-headed thinking, thoughtful responses in place of rash reactions.”—The Kenan Institute for Ethics at Duke University
“This book is a gold mine of wonderful strategies that will help today’s youth become peaceful, contributing, healthy beings.”—Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of The 6Rs of Bullying Prevention
“This book leaves readers with everyday strategies to work out conflicts, and, as a result, become happier in their relationships with their family and friends. Naomi Drew offers her readers the hope that every day is an opportunity to change.”—Christopher J. Campisano, Ed.D., New Jersey Department of Education
“I heartily recommend The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts to any parent or child—or world leader for that matter.”—Greg Martin, coauthor of The Buddha in Your Mirror

  • National Parenting Publication Award (NAPPA) Children’s Resources Winner
  • iParenting Media Awards, Winner
  • Honor Award, Skipping Stones Multicultural Magazine, Winner
  • Common Core State Standards


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