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But Why Can’t I?

A book about rules


Kids and rules don’t always make a perfect match right away. Following rules that adults make can be hard for children, yet it is an important skill in character education and development. Kids want to know, “But why can’t I?”

But Why Can’t I? explores these feelings using simple text, cheerful illustrations, and a light touch of humor. When Jenny comes over to babysit, Noah doesn’t want to do what she says. Rules for games, rules for bedtime—rules, rules, rules! But Jenny helps him understand that adults have to follow rules, too, and rules help keep everybody safe, healthy, and happy.

Following the story, a series of pictures invites children to tell a story in their own words about following rules. A section for adults suggests ideas for talking with kids about why rules are important and gently presents positive coping skills for children when it comes to dealing with their emotions. Ideal for home and K–3 classroom settings.

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Hardcover $12.99 23760 Hardcover 23760 $12.99
ISBN: 978-1-57542-376-0
Reading Level: Grade 1
Interest Level: Ages 4–8
Guided Reading Level: I
Illustrated: color illust.
Trim Size: 7.75" x 9.5"
Page Count: 28

Praise for But Why Can’t I?
“Simple plotlines create excellent lead-ins to talking about making good decisions when faced with new and difficult emotions.”—School Library Journal

“Great for a counselor or [for kids during] the first few days of school.”—Lincoln Public Schools

Praise for the series
“The Our Emotions and Behavior series offer[s] young children and their caregivers help with hard-to-manage feelings and inappropriate actions . . . The simple texts are direct, and the endings are consistently upbeat . . . These purposeful books will be useful in many libraries.”—Booklist

“These are excellent titles for children who need help expressing their feelings and they will be a bonus in any guidance counselor’s arsenal.”—School Library Journal

“Exuberant color illustrations bring to life simple stories about ordinary children interacting with their friends at school or at play . . . The Our Emotions and Behavior series is enthusiastically recommended for parents as well as school and library children’s collections.”—Midwest Book Review

“Titles in the series capture the big emotions that all kids feel. The stories are perfect for young readers.”—Imagination Soup blog

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