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A story that helps with teaching boundaries.

We Ask Permission

illustrated by Isabel Muñoz

Asking for permission is a key foundation of consent. We Ask Permission builds children’s social and emotional skills and helps with teaching boundaries by encouraging children to look for body language cues and by asking before hugging or touching others.

The third book in the We Say What’s Okay series, We Ask Permission follows Jovan as he learns to ask permission and become a body language detective. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Jovan’s teachers use to support children as they learn to look for body language cues and respect the personal boundaries of others. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching boundaries and consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.

Digital content includes a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.
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Hardcover $15.99 86758 Hardcover 86758 $15.99
ISBN: 978-1-63198-675-8
Reading Level: Grade 1
Interest Level: Ages 3–5
Guided Reading Level: H
Illustrated: color illust.
Trim Size: 10" x 10"
Page Count: 36
Praise for We Ask Permission

“This title covers an important social skill that is often difficult for children to learn. The classroom and the activities that students are engaged in are authentically appropriate for early primary grades and will resonate with young readers.”—School Library Journal 

“Highly recommended.”—Children’s Bookwatch

We Ask Permission is more than a fun story for children and their teachers. This story is part of a movement to re-humanize our work with young children. Lydia Bowers tells a story that centers the ideas of consent, inclusion, equity, and childhood for all of us. Here’s to a new generation of Body Language Detectives!”—Heather Bernt-Santy, M.A.Ed., speaker, consultant, and podcaster, That Early Childhood Nerd
  • ASCA Mindsets & Behaviors for Student Success

    M 1, M 2, B-LS 1, B-LS 2, B-LS 9, B-SMS 1, B-SMS 2, B-SMS 7, B-SMS 9, B-SS 1, B-SS 2, B-SS 3, B-SS 4, B-SS 8, B-SS 9, B-SS 10

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